At this point in time the love scenes weren't racy like they are now, but despite that my Dad had a HUGE problem with me watching Soaps. In fact he banned Kathryn and I from taping them when we couldn't watch them and most often would try and stop us from watching them when they were on. I just remember being pissed off at him. I never paid much attention to the sexual aspect of it all I just wanted to know what was going to happen in the story!
As of June of this year I stopped watching Days of Our Lives. I ceased being able to find the entertainment value in it anymore. I cannot continue to watch because I cannot stand the way they portray relationships.
The stories usually revolve around someone lying to their husband, boyfriend, lover or whatever. They encourage that idea because of course the character is ALWAYS doing it out of love for the person they are lying to. I can't help but think that after years of watching this it has affected me in ways that I hadn't even realized until this year.
I have always kept my needs to myself. I would always do whatever would make everyone else happy but rarely do what makes me happy. I'd always sacrafice things for the happiness of others. And this is a notion I see on Soap Operas all the time!
If there is anything I have learned this year it is that communication is the most vital part of any relationship. If you cannot communicate your needs, wants or feelings with the other person than your relationship is doomed before it even begins.
I cannot stand watching people (even if they are actors portraying characters) constantly lying and keeping things from one another because they are 'protecting' the other person.
The other ridiculous notion is that someone can be in love with more than one person at a time. I find that absolutely insane! You get that story in soaps all the time too. How you'll have two characters that can't 'fight' their attraction for one another and end up committing adultery. And that this is ok because they 'love' each other. I'm sorry, if you love someone you don't cheat on them. You couldn't because that would be hurting that person in a way you could NEVER take back or make better. You don't cheat on someone you love no matter what.
If there is someone you are willing to have an affair with maybe what should be considered is that you never loved the first person in the first place. But people too often use love as an excuse for everything. That is the thing that will get them out of any tight spot. All they have to do is scream the word LOVE and all is forgiven and forgotten. Personally I think that someone who cannot make up their mind and has to string along someone doesn't deserve either person.
I think after all the things I've seen this year I have very little faith in love left. I also know how few of the people that I know actually know what love is or what it means. Most people I know have NO idea how to communicate and this year I have witnessed fully what that does to your life and relationships.
So goodbye Days of Our Lives. I've outgrown your childish and unhealthy characters and stories.
Unconscious Mutterings for this Week
- Small Talk:: insignificant
- Evidence:: CSI
- Drifting:: hopelessly
- Hostage:: to fate
- Beauty:: everywhere
- Automatic:: flowers - that OLP song from a few years back
- Asking for it:: will often get it
- Visene:: blurry
- No strings attached:: rarely the truth
- Frizz:: Karen's hair - or at least she complains about it being frizzy whether it is or not.
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